The internet has opened our eyes to a lot of things that many of us had previously never thought of… and while sometimes the web leaves you desperate to UN-think something, it is quite easy to find intriguing ideas on the world-wide advertisement and porn hub. Today we hold the hands of beginners to the adult toy scene, explaining how some of the more unusual items can play a part in the daily life of your neighbour, your teacher, your grandparent or the man who ‘comes to clean ze pool’!
It’s impossible to imagine how you might effectively use anal beads for pleasure unless it’s been explained to you! People insert these adult toys as part of play, then pull the string of beads out as they are nearing or having an orgasm. Anal beads work for both guys and girls, and most are tapered, so that beginners can start off by just inserting the smaller beads at the start of the ‘string’
These incognito ‘pussy in a flashlight’ toys look funny at first glance… even to guys! However, they’re more than just a fancy sort of hand to masturbate with. They can be mounted on couches, beds, desks etc, can be very effectively lubed, and look/feel quite realistic. Most guys that try them are instant converts! There are mouth-style and anal-style flashlights to be found as well – they’re usually a good value standard masturbator for guys, rather like a dildo or vibe for chicks.
Whatever you do, don’t watch a video of clitoral pumps being used before you actually try one! They help ‘pump up’ the clitoral area with blood, increasing surface area and sensitivity. Yes, they look hilarious. Yes, they feel amazing.
Double ended dildos
Why should one girl in a duo get all the fun? Double ended dildos are inserted with one end in one lady, and the other end in another. There is definitely an art to using them; double ended dildos don’t work as well for thrusting, but are fantastic for gentle bumping and grinding.
Nipple clamps and suckers
These two adult toy products are often lumped in together, but they are actually quite different. Nipple clamps create a tinge of pain that turns on more people than you might realise, especially if they are weighted. Nipple suckers, however, simulate the feeling of having your nipples sucked!
These can be worn by either guys or girls, depending on their design. Guys might wear them for double penetration with a girl… girls might want to hit a female partner’s g-spot, or indulge anal fantasies with their boyfriend.
The world of sex toys is weird and wonderful… and all perfectly healthy, and yes, normal! Once your eyes have been opened, other parts of your body may follow…
It’s only natural for us to want to share the things we love, enjoy and go wild over with our friends and loved ones! Toys can put a spring in your step and a shine on your day… so why not share that spring an shine with a friend? Today we check out the who, what, where and when of adult toys as gifts.
Who Should I Give a Toy Gift to?
Unfortunately (or perhaps, fortunately), there are some people that it just isn’t appropriate to give adult toys to! Your gift recipients could be:
A very close female friend (for girls)
A reasonably close friend as a group gift at hen’s parties, etc
Note that if you’re a girl buying for your boyfriend, it will be just as much of a gift for him to see you using a toy that you enjoy, as buying one specifically for him to use!
Which Toys Make Good Gifts?
Every toy might be fun to use, but not all make good gifts! Match your present to your audience with the following suggestions:
For boyfriends: Avoid anything that will make him feel insecure (penis pumps, cock rings, enormous oversized dildos, etc). Anal toys for him or you can be great buys to help you explore new frontiers together; remote control vibrators can also be fabulous fun for boys. If you want to buy something that’s technically for you, but he gets to enjoy the ‘benefits’ of, why not try lingerie, a Rabbit vibe or edible underwear.
For girlfriends: There are many, man toys out there, and a hundred different ways that you could expand the horizons of a previously vanilla-style girl. However, if you’re buying a toy as a surprise for your girlfriend, you should stick to what you already know she likes. If she hasn’t tried adult toys before, simple egg vibrators or dildos can help ease her into the idea. Alternatively, grab some lingerie for guys, a video on a topic you know she’s interested in, or a board game where sex is the prize!
For close female friends:Buy her something that she’d never get for herself – an extravagant vibrator/dildo combination, something to enjoy with her partner, or some luxurious lubes and lotions!
As hen’s party gifts: Though it seems a waste, not all the sex toy gifts given at hen’s parties will actually be used! Sometimes they are for laughs… and very effective at achieving that goal too. Grab something enormous and gaudily coloured, and watch the group explode with laughter.
When and Where Are Toys Appropriate Gifts?
For partners, the best place to actually give a toy gift is obviously the privacy of your own home! For close girlfriends, keep it private too – you might want to leave the box with her, so she doesn’t think you’re making a pass. That could be awkward.
Adult toys definitely no longer have to be something to be kept in the shadows – share the shine in your day and the spring in your step!
If you’ve never tried out adult toys or special lingerie before, chances are that you’re a bit reticent due to feeling awkward or embarrassed. This is perfectly natural; most women feel the same way. This phenomenon is largely behind the meteoric rise in popularity of adult party plans. Such get togethers are wonderful ways to dip your toe into the world of adult toys – without having to take the entire plunge.
Want To Give It A Try? Attend A Lingerie Party
Chances are, you know at least a few people who have attended a lingerie or adult toy party at one time or another. In fact, you may even already know somebody who attends them regularly. As popular as they have become, it’s certainly not difficult finding one to attend. Why have they become so popular, though? Mostly because they allow a group of women to hang out and socialise, while having the opportunity to check out different types of lingerie and sex toys. The party atmosphere of these events make them perfect for those who have never really experienced such things before.
Check Out The Merchandise In Person
If you’ve never tried out a sex toy or tried on sexy lingerie before, ordering such things online can be problematic. After all, you really don’t have much of an idea about what to expect “in real life.” At an adult toy party, though, you can see these items firsthand in order to gain a better feeling and understanding for what they are all about. Sitting amid a group of like-minded – and giggling – women can remove the awkwardness of the situation, allowing you to let loose and really familiarise yourself with such products.
Too Shy To Order Them In Person? No Problem!
As much fun as it may be to pass around various products during an adult toy or lingerie party, when it comes time to place an order some women draw the line and won’t do it. The embarrassment and reticence kick back in, and women end up leaving such parties empty-handed. If this sounds familiar, never fear: You can have your cake and eat it, too, by ordering the things that you liked the best online.
One of the most popular ways that many women obtain their sex toys and their lingerie is by attending parties, then ordering what they want upon returning home. This way, you don’t have to place an order with the hostess in front of all of your friends. Instead, you can get home, log on to a reputable website, and pick out precisely what you want without a single other person having to know about it. In a few days, your merchandise will arrive on your doorstep; discreet packaging will prevent others from having a clue about what’s inside the carton.
Expand Your Horizons Today!
It’s easy to see why lingerie and sex toys have become so popular these days. Such products can breathe new excitement and life into a floundering relationship, or can simple add a bit of spice to a strong one. The embarrassment of using such products can be mitigated by attending a fun party and by ordering what you need from the comfort of your own home. If you’re curious, there’s absolutely no reason not to try them out today.
One reason that many women are reticent to attend adult parties is because they think there’s no way they’d be interested in the items that are offered at one. Everyone’s sexual preferences vary by a considerable degree; what one person considers outrageous, another won’t even bat an eyelash at. That being said, it should be noted that adult toy parties offer a huge range of items – and there is bound to be something there that will positively thrill you.
Amp Up The Adventure in Your Love Life
If the idea of bringing home a sex toy just doesn’t sit all that well with you, you still shouldn’t rule out attending an adult toy party. There are many different party ideas for adults, and most of these parties feature more conventional items as well. Above all, you are bound to discover that you aren’t as embarrassed as you thought you’d be – especially once you see the enormous benefits that go along with introducing such items into your relationship.
Get Creative with Body Paint
Women who are reluctant to purchase actual sex toys often find body paint to be a pleasant alternative. Edible body paints come in a wide array of delicious flavours; when used in the bedroom, a lot of extra fun can be had. Chocolate body paint, for instance, is a delicious way to explore your partner’s body in a whole new way. You can use it however you want to, of course, which ensures that you won’t feel awkward.
Don Some Costume Lingerie
Costume lingerie is another very popular item for women who aren’t keen on buying outright sex toys at adult toy parties. Dressing up for your partner is a fun way to jazz things up, and there are generally many different costumes to choose from. When you look sexy, you feel sexy as well; feeling sexy helps you get in the mood – and is sure to thrill your partner, too! It’s amazing what one simple outfit can do in terms of excitement in a relationship, so be sure to keep an open mind.
Just Try It!
The most important thing to do when considering whether or not to attend an adult toy party is to push all of your preconceived notions to the side. Until you’ve been to one, there’s no way to tell whether or not you will enjoy such an event. If you’re like the vast majority of women, however, you are bound to have a wonderful time. Instead of feeling awkward and embarrassed, you’ll get right into the spirit of things. Rather than bringing home something that you’re nervous about using, you’ll bring back something fun that you and your partner will have a blast experimenting with. Adult toy parties – and the items they offer – are definitely win-win situations.